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Welcome to Mama T’s mental health blog where Tammy Powder shares insights and loving guidance from the heart of a mother who has been through much of life’s ups and downs. Her poetry and blogs offer you a guiding light through times of grief, loss, pain, love and advocacy for all who feel like they are walking alone.

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    Conversations with My Daughter

    I often sit in the quiet and connect with my daughter, Ruby. I get so many beautiful messages and incredible pieces of evidence. It is heart-warming, inspiring and calm. And it helps my heart and keeps me going.  I know she wants me to share, so here is her message from August 30, 2026. I hope…

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    We Cannot Turn Back the Clock

    It’s so final. No matter how much we beg, pray or wish, we cannot turn back the clock. And that is probably one of the most sickening, unreal realities of grief. It is a feeling we truly cannot describe until we have lived it. We cannot go back to say what we needed to say.…

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    Saying Yes

    For a long time, I believed that saying yes made me a good person. If someone needed help, I wanted to be there. If someone asked for my time, I would find a way to make it work. If saying yes meant someone else was happy, then yes seemed like the right answer. The problem…

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    Moving Beyond Our Guilt

    One of the biggest pains in grief is not just missing the person we love. It is learning how to keep living without feeling like we are leaving them behind. The guilt we carry, it is like a monkey on our backs. When we laugh, enjoy a holiday, celebrate a birthday, or realize we made…

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    Let’s Talk About Visitation Dreams

    These are the dreams that feel different. You wake up, and for a moment, you’re almost confused because it felt so real. You said hello. You hugged. You talked. Maybe you simply sat together. Whatever happened, you don’t just remember the dream. You feel them. It feels as though your loved one was actually there…

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    The heart may know they are still close, but the body remembers the loss.

    Today is June 2, and we have made it through May. I used to love May. May was a month for me to celebrate, as Mother’s Day and my birthday are in May. But May is also the month that my daughter passed to the Other Side. I was naïve this year. I thought because…