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On the Days It Hurts Most
On the days that I miss you most, those are the days I think back on our memories together. If I didn’t have this pain, I know that I wouldn’t have had you and I wouldn’t have experienced such an incredible love. The days that I miss you most are the days that I honour…
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Joy and Grief Go Hand-In-Hand
I never really understood before when people said, “Grief and joy live together.” But now, I do. It is possible. Grief is an absolutely messy road for any person to be on, full of muck and mud, unbelievably hard mountains to climb that leave you brutally exhausted. It is a tiring road that is daunting and…
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Where There Is Pain, There Will Always Be Strength
Pain. “Where there is pain there will always be strength”. This was tattooed on my daughter’s arm from when she was 18 years old in 2017. Her very first tattoo and it was on her forearm where she could always see. She was so proud of it. This was a phrase from a song she loved written…
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For the Broken Moms on Mother’s Day
To the broken mom, I’m writing this letter to you, the broken mom, but also to me, a broken mom who had her entire world shattered this past year. I feel like others can relate to these words that are swirling in my mind. I know I’m not alone. This past year has been absolutely…
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Why do we focus only on what we did wrong?
Years ago, my mom told me something so profound when my daughter Ruby was going through a very difficult time. Of course, I was blaming myself for everything I did wrong as a parent. But then my mom said to me, “We only look in the small rear view mirror at all that we did…
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How do you move on after loss?
It feels impossible to move on after someone you love passes over. It is terrifying actually. Move on? How can you possibly move on? Moving on feels like closing a door and leaving something behind. So how do you “move on”? I feel these are words used by people who have not really…
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It’s Okay
I want to share something with you that sure helped me. My therapist said to me the other day, “It’s Okay” and it stopped me in my tracks. I was going on and on about how I “should” be doing things or perhaps what I should be doing differently and she said, “What you are…
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Life is hard, like sailing a big ship
Here I am. This is me. Messy, loud, emotional, loving, generous and I get things wrong. But sometimes I also, get things very right. I will always keep trying though; adjust my sails and try again. I may float for a while after a big storm, but I will try again. Life is hard. That’s…
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What Others Think Of Us
I was in an appointment with a therapist many years ago, and she said a loaded statement that I did not understand at the time. This was before I really started my journey into self-awareness and self-care. I feel like I was on the threshold of learning that I could choose how I wanted to react,…